I’ve thought of two virtually magic keys to good relationships. The first is validation. It rests on the idea that everything we do in a relationship is either building it up or tearing it down. Isn’t that a scary thought? When we build up a relationship we confirm our bond with the other person and we affirm the other person. How do we do this? Here is a list of things that build up a relationship:
•Let your eyes light up when you see each other.
•Look into your partner’s eyes.
•Listen, really listen.
•Acknowledge feelings. “That must really hurt.”
•Give hugs and say “I love you.”
•Give compliments. “You look nice today.”
•Give appreciation. “Thanks for taking out the trash.”
•Smile and enjoy each other.
“Love one another deeply from the heart.” 1Peter 1:22
The second magic key is prayer. Prayer unites us in an eternal purpose beyond our mundane daily life. Praying together bonds us with each other and with God. We cannot hide from God and so a prayerful connection opens our hearts to Him and to each other in a new and almost magical way. If you’ve never prayed together begin with sentence prayers and progress to a time of prayer together when both of you pray. Some couples start their day with prayer and some end their day this way. Do what works for you but take risks and gain the rewards of knowing God and each other better.
“Come near to God and he will come near to you.” James 4:8
For more on validation see youtube below. It’s worth the time.